A baby shower reminder message is two or three lines: whose shower, when, and the one thing guests need next (the reply link before the RSVP date, the address the day before). Send the first one about a week before the RSVP date, only to guests who haven’t answered. Below are 35 messages to copy, from the first nudge to a change of plans.
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What to put in a baby shower reminder message
A good reminder tells guests, at a glance, whose shower it is, when it is and how to reply. Add a kind way to say no, and you’re done.
Every RSVP reminder needs
- Who’s writing, if they might not have your number saved: “It’s Priya, Maya’s friend.”
- Whose shower it is, and the date: “Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18.”
- The RSVP date, as a real day: “by Sunday, April 4,” not “soon.”
- The link to reply, so nobody has to dig for the invitation.
- An easy out: “No worries if you can’t make it” makes a no as easy to send as a yes.
Tap Copy, then swap in your own names and dates: Maya & Jordan are a fictional couple. Where it says [link], paste the link guests reply on: the page your invitation sends them to.
“Hi Sam, it’s Priya, Maya’s friend! Can you let us know by Sunday, April 4 if you’re coming to Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18? No worries if you can’t: [link]”
Keep it short enough to read at a glance. A baby shower reminder text isn’t the place to repeat every detail: that’s what the link is for.
Pro tip
When to send an RSVP reminder
Send the first RSVP reminder about a week before your RSVP date, to guests who haven’t answered. Here’s the whole schedule, with the dates for a shower on Sunday, April 18 and replies due Sunday, April 4:
- About a week before the RSVP date: the nudgeAround March 28, to everyone who hasn’t replied, by text or the app you already use with them.
- On the RSVP date, or just after: the follow-upOn April 4 or 5, one personal message to the few still missing. A phone call works too.
- About a week before the shower: the heads-upAround April 11, to everyone who said yes: the time, the place and anything to bring.
- The day before: see you tomorrowOn April 17, to everyone coming: the start time and the address, written out in the text.
Good to know
Still writing the invitation itself? It usually goes out four to six weeks before the shower, with an RSVP date one to two weeks before it. Our baby shower invitation wording guide has the lines for that part.
A friendly nudge before the RSVP deadline
The first reminder should sound like a friend, not a form letter: one warm line, the date, the deadline and the link. Pick the tone that fits each guest.
“Hi Sam, just a friendly reminder about Maya & Jordan’s baby shower on Sunday, April 18. Could you let us know by April 4 if you can make it? No worries at all if you can’t. Here’s the link to reply: [link]”
“Still hoping to see you at Maya’s shower on April 18. Can you RSVP by April 4? [link]”
“Hi Dana! We’re planning the food and the favors for Maya’s shower on April 18. Could you tell us by April 4 if you’re coming? [link]”
“Hi Chris! The cupcake order for Maya’s shower needs a head count by April 4, and we’d love you in it. Are you coming on the 18th? [link]”
For an older relative or a colleague, an email in a more formal tone works well. A subject line that says it all: “Maya & Jordan’s baby shower: please reply by April 4.”
“Dear Mrs. Alvarez, we hope our invitation to Maya and Jordan’s baby shower on Sunday, April 18, at 2 PM reached you. Kindly let us know by Sunday, April 4, whether you’ll be able to attend: simply reply to this email, or use this link: [link]”
A reminder can also come from the parents-to-be, to their own friends and family. At a coed baby shower, it can come from either of them.
“Hi Aunt Rosa, it’s Maya! I’d love to see you at my baby shower on Sunday, April 18. Could you RSVP by April 4? [link]”
“Hi Marcus, it’s Jordan. Maya and I would love to see you at our baby shower on April 18. Can you let us know by April 4? [link]”
For a printed reminder card or a post on your own page, keep it to the facts:
“Don’t forget! Maya & Jordan’s baby shower, Sunday, April 18 at 2 PM, The Wythe Greenhouse. Please RSVP by April 4: [link]”
Make it easy to say no
One group reminder, then personal texts
A reminder in a family chat or a WhatsApp group reaches everyone at once, and it works as long as it’s clearly for anyone who hasn’t replied. Post it once: it counts as your nudge. On the RSVP date, send a personal text to anyone still missing.
It’s the same trade-off as for the invitation itself, and our guide to sending baby shower invitations online compares a group text with individual texts.
“Hi everyone, we’re getting ready for Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18. Already answered? You’re all set, thank you. If you haven’t, could you let us know by April 4? Here’s the link: [link]”
“Planning for Maya & Jordan’s shower on April 18 is in full swing! If you haven’t replied yet, please do by April 4 so we can plan the food and the seating. [link]”
If guests answer with the event’s own Going button, leave the link out.
“Hi Aunt Lena, just checking you saw the shower link in the family chat. Today’s our RSVP date: could you let me know if you can come? [link]”
For an office shower, send the reminder by email about a week before:
“Hi team, a reminder: we’re celebrating Maya’s baby shower on Thursday, April 15 at 12:30 PM in the fourth-floor conference room. If you’d like to join, please reply by Monday, April 12 so we can order enough lunch. Here’s the link: [link]”
Who gets a reminder, and who doesn’t
An RSVP reminder goes only to guests who haven’t answered, so before each round, compare your guest list with the replies: anyone on the list but not in the replies gets one.
- Keep one guest listA spreadsheet, a notes app or paper: whichever you’ll actually open.
- Check off every replyOn your RSVP page, name by name.
- Add the answers that came another wayYour aunt said yes on the phone? Mark her down, so she doesn’t get a reminder she doesn’t need.
- Remind only who’s leftThat short list is who gets your nudge.
If your invitation is an InviteByLink baby shower website, guests reply on it with no app and no account, and your dashboard lists every reply, newest first. It keeps no guest list, sends no reminders and doesn’t email you each time someone answers, so look at it before each round. If a guest replies again under the same name, their newest reply replaces the earlier one in the totals, and the list keeps both.
If you didn’t start a list when you sent the invitations, our guide to keeping track of who’s replied shows what the list needs.
What to text guests who haven’t replied
Send one warm, personal message on the deadline or just after it. Assume they’re busy, not rude. Say when you give your final count, and make either answer easy to give.
“Hi Sam, today’s our RSVP date for Maya’s shower, and our final count goes to the caterer on Wednesday. Will you be able to join us on April 18? A quick yes or no is perfect: [link]”
“Hi Jess, I know life’s busy. We’re giving the caterer our final count on Wednesday. Can you let me know if you’ll make it to Maya’s shower on the 18th? [link]”
Some guests answer a call faster than a text. If it goes to voicemail, keep the message as short as a text:
“Hi Grandpa Joe, it’s Priya, Maya’s friend. I’m calling about Maya’s baby shower on Sunday, April 18 at 2. Could you call or text me back at [your number] by Wednesday to say if you can come? We’d love to see you.”
The deadline is a request, not a lock: a late reply can still arrive, so check your replies once more before you confirm numbers.
When someone says maybe
If your RSVP form has no “maybe,” an unsure guest may text you instead. Agree on when you’ll check back.
“Totally understand. We need our final count by Wednesday, so can I check back with you on Tuesday? And if it’s a no, that’s completely fine.”
Count a maybe as a maybe, not a yes. When you give the caterer or the venue a number, say which part is confirmed.
When a late yes comes in
“So glad you can make it! I’ve added you to the list. See you on Sunday, April 18 at 2 PM at The Wythe Greenhouse.”
Already gave your final count? Ask the caterer or the venue about one more as soon as you can.
When someone can’t come
“Thank you for letting me know. We’ll miss you, and I’ll make sure Maya knows you were thinking of her.”
Add their no to your list. If they ask about gifts, send the registry link; otherwise, a thank-you is all this message needs.
A week before the shower: a reminder for everyone coming
About a week before the shower, send everyone who said yes the time, the place and anything to bring. The host can send it, and a parent-to-be can add a warm note of their own.
Writing to forty guests at once? One group message works here, since everyone on it is coming.
“One week until Maya & Jordan’s baby shower! Sunday, April 18 at 2 PM at The Wythe Greenhouse. Any food allergies I should plan for? Everything else is here: [link]”
“Hi! It’s Maya. I can’t wait to see you on Sunday, April 18 at 2. Thank you for coming to celebrate with us. All the details are here: [link]”
“Hi Aunt Lena, so happy you’re making the trip for Maya’s shower! It’s on Sunday, April 18 at 2 PM at The Wythe Greenhouse, [address]. Need a ride from your hotel? Just say the word.”
If the invitation asked guests to bring something, add one line to your week-before text, in the same words:
“P.S. Instead of a card, bring a favorite children’s book with a note inside, if you like.”
“P.S. There’s a diaper raffle! Bring a pack of diapers, any size, for a ticket. It’s optional, of course.”
Our diaper raffle wording guide has the lines for the invitation itself.
Don’t turn a reminder into a gift list
The day-before reminder: see you tomorrow
The day before the shower, text everyone who said yes: the start time, the address and one practical detail, like parking.
“Can’t wait to see you tomorrow. Maya & Jordan’s shower starts at 2 PM at The Wythe Greenhouse, [address]. [parking tip]. Give yourself a few extra minutes. Everything else is here: [link]”
“See you tomorrow at 2 PM for Maya’s shower! The Wythe Greenhouse, [address]”
Put the address in the text itself. On the day, nobody wants to hunt for it.
“See you tomorrow at 2 PM Eastern for Maya’s virtual shower! Join here: [link]”
“Thank you for helping tomorrow! Could you be at The Wythe Greenhouse at 12:30 PM to set up? I’ll bring the tablecloths and the cake.”
“Reminder for tomorrow: please arrive by 2 PM and park out of sight. Maya & Jordan walk in at 2:30, so keep it quiet in the group chats!”
For how early guests should arrive, see our guide to planning a surprise baby shower.
On the morning itself, one line is enough, if you send anything:
“Good morning! See you at 2 PM at The Wythe Greenhouse. Text me if you’re running late or can’t find it.”
When the time or the place changes
As soon as you know, text guests a message that stands on its own: what changed, what stays the same, and whether they need to do anything.
“Quick update for Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18: we’re now starting at 3 PM instead of 2 PM. Everything else stays the same. See you there.”
Sent the invitation before you had a place? The same kind of message announces it.
“Good news: we found a place. Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18 at 2 PM will be at The Wythe Greenhouse, [address].”
“Weather update for Sunday the 18th: with rain in the forecast, Maya’s shower moves to [new address]. Same time, 2 PM. See you there!”
“Change of plans: we’re postponing Maya & Jordan’s shower, which was set for Sunday, April 18. We’ll send the new date as soon as we have it. Thank you for understanding.”
“We’re sorry to share that Maya & Jordan’s shower on Sunday, April 18 is canceled. Thank you for wanting to celebrate with them.”
A cancellation needs no reason. Agree on the wording with the parents-to-be first, share only what they want shared, and call close family before the message goes out.
Correct the invitation page too, if you can. Guests who already read it may not look again, so your message is what tells them.
Tell everyone who might come
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